Thursday, June 26, 2014

Separation anxiety of a different kind !

The husband has been away for a while now. It will take him another couple of months to be back. The little one is keeping me very busy and on some days, I do not even remember that he is not there. Some days we do manage to squeeze in to talk for a few minutes. On most days, thanks to the time difference, we just about manage to acknowledge that we are doing fine by messages that are replied to, hours later.

There was a time when I could not bear to be away from him, even for a couple of days. I would call him all the time or chat and invariably miss him when I got home. I also wrote about how strong I was while he was leaving the country here. Any other time would have had me crying and bawling and being depressed for entire days after he was gone. The other day I was just wondering about this. All sorts of thoughts crossed my mind. Had I changed after becoming a mother? Did my love for the child overpower my love for him?
Or was I just over imagining things because I was so busy at all the other times?

I got my answer when I was watching "Two States". It's one of two movies I have watched in the past 7 months (all thanks to the entry of the little one in our lives). I am known to be a book lover and I, almost, never (except a few times) like a movie adapted from a book. And this was a book I did not even rate too high. It was OK, average. But I liked the movie. I loved the way Alia's character was portrayed. I loved all the cliched drama of the loud Punjabi family and not-so-convincing South Indian accents. I loved the songs. And I liked Arjun Kapoor the best. His face had such a lost puppy look to it that you would immediately want to run and hug him. He didn't seem like a quintessential "hero", but a very normal guy who has his  ambitions and apprehensions mixed up.

Another reason I also loved this movie could have been because H and I also faced a lot of opposition when we decided to get married. Somehow, I was transported back to those years when we were the boy and girl in love. When we just had to get married to each other or no one else. When there were lots of tears, emotions and melodrama. And suddenly, all those emotions which I thought I had lost came back to me. I had a lump in my throat. I wanted to cry, I wanted to meet him and say the I love you. I wanted to be with him right then.

And then the movie ended. The ear phones came off. And the little one woke up.

But there is this song "Chaandaniya" (from the movie) that I have been playing in a loop ever since. It's my favorite song these days.

Disclaimer: If you are missing a loved one, hear the song at your own risk. It will make you all sad and mushy.



Wednesday, June 25, 2014

Expectations – Disappointment Under Construction?

“The expectations of others were the bars I used for own cage” – Anonymous



When a child is born, we want him/her to be healthy and beautiful and intelligent and what not.. But do we expect them to be all of the above? No. But somewhere along, as the years pass by, this “want” changes to “must” which basically translates to expectations. This change does not happen overnight but gradually. “Expectations” is a very adult thing. And so when we think that our kids have “grown up” (even though they never stop growing, right?), we start “expecting” them to behave in a certain way.

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Monday, June 23, 2014

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Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Fashionista High with Baggout !

My ever favorite, the eternal fashionista Sarrah Jessica Parker (SJP), more famously known as Carrie Bradshaw (of Sex and the City fame) arrives in India. She is someone who needs no mention. She is someone who throws out all the fashion books while dressing and creates her own style. And because this is a hypothetical situation, I am accompanying her on her Delhi tour ;-)



SJP : You know, I really love the burst of colors on Indian roads. You guys have a range of fabrics, so many apparels and designs to choose from.

GS : Oh yes! You will find clothes ranging from an LBD, tunics, Kurtis to skirts, leggings and saris in an average Indian woman's wardrobe.

SJP : And despite this horrible weather, I see all these young girls on the road sporting such fashionable clothes. And the shoes! Don't even get me started. I love the jutis, the kolhapuris, the flats and the heels.

GS : Awww Sarah. We all know your love for shoes now, don't we?

SJP : (Smiling) Yes! If only I could take all this back with me.

GS : But you can.

SJP : Thank you darling. But I am in no mood to go out shopping in the Delhi heat. Running from shop to shop in this weather is not really my idea of a vacation :-\

GS : But SJP, you can buy all this sitting right here and you can also get some great deals and cash
backs.

SJP : Really? Can I? This sounds too good to be true.

GS : Just check out this website BaggOut. They have stuff from all the major brands. And they also offer coupons and cash back when you shop!




SJP : Wow, this looks awesome. I think I can find everything here. And how did you say, the cash back thing works?

GS : Here, this is how


SJP : OK. I think my itinerary for the day is set. I am going to explore this awesome website and gift myself some really cool stuff.

GS : And also some great deals! ;-)

And so, while SJP is busy browsing the BaggOut website for filling up her Indian wardrobe, I wrote out this post for you, so you don't miss out on some great deals and merchandise.

Edited to add: you can read my interview on BaggOut here

PS: This post has been selected as one of the top 5 Most Creative Entries in the contest. :)


Thursday, June 12, 2014

The Liebster Blog award!

Yayy! I have been awarded the Leibster award by my lovely blogger friend Mahima. She is the first friend I made through a blogger meet and it is always super fun to meet her and catch up. She is an awesome blogger too. You can read her here.



So, here are the rules of the award.

1. Write 10 random facts about yourself.
2. Answer the questions posed by nominating blogger.
3. Nominate 11 bloggers with less than 200 followers
4. Write 11 questions for them to answer.


10 random facts about myself:

1) I love Chinese food to death. SO much so that every time we go out to eat or we order in, it HAS to be Chinese.

2) I love travelling and exploring new places. But I hate the planning part - booking tickets, hotels and shopping :-P

3) I love love love babies. And now that I have one of my own, I can't get over how cute and lovely and mean these little beings are.

4) I don't have a lot of good friends. I have few best friends. I am like that.

5) I have mild OCD when it comes to keeping my house clean. Everything has a place in the house and it MUST be there. No surprises please.

6) Even though I have a way with words (that's why the blog), I find it extremely difficult to say the same things face to face.

7) I am an overtly emotional person. I can cry at the drop of a hat when it comes to anything about the people close to me. But I hate to cry in public view.

8) I am a huge "Gone with the Wind" fan. I have read the book over 10 times. If you know the book, it's over a 1000 pages.

9) I am very desi at heart. I prefer bollywood movies and bollywood music any day over their international counter parts.

10) I am very shy in large public gatherings. I do well in a small group and best in one on one conversations.

Now for the questions posed to me:

1) Which is your favorite movie and why?
I can't pick one for obvious reasons. But just to mention, I LUAAVVEEE "Dil To Pagal Hai" "Jab We Met" and "DDLJ".

2) A career option you would never opt for and why.
I can never see myself high up in the Corporate Management. Forever sitting in meetings and sending emails. I would rather work and have some time free time for myself.

3) Is it better to be born rich than to be to talented?
Absolutely no. I think Talent can take you anywhere and everywhere. Can create a lot of money too. But without talent, you can squander away all the money even if you had a rich heritage.

4) A book you wish had never ended.
Of course, Gone with the Wind. I am a huge romantic at heart. Classic love stories just take away my heart like nothing else.

5) What upsets you the most?
When people misunderstand me. And that happens A LOT. :(

6) What is your greatest phobia?
To lose my loved ones :'(

7) What is the craziest thing you would ever want to try?
I think I have already done that. I have carried and birthed a baby ;-)

8) What is your idea of a perfect weekend?
That it should never end ;-)

9) Why did you start blogging?
As I said before, I am very shy at expressing my feelings in person, but writing is another thing. So a few times I wrote a few things and sent it to people concerned, I got appreciation for my writing skills. Then one of my best friends cajoled me into having a personal blog. And tada, I am here :)

10) What is that one line or word that comes to your mind when I say the following:
Rain - Romance, mush, melodrama and philosophy
Pizza - Husband's favorite. So another favorite :) (of course, after Chinese)
Books - I would be lost without them
Hate - It's a very strong emotion. We could do a lot better at humanity without it.

Q11. And finally-Vampire Diaries or Prison Break(this question is for TV series freaks like me).
Haven't watched both these series. But I am a HUGE ( and I mean really HUGE) fan of Sex and the City. Have watched all the episodes and all the seasons umpteen times.


Now for my own list of nominated bloggers:
I am not nominating 11 bloggers. But here is my list :

1) Blogwati G
2) Roshni
3) Cynthia
4) Gauri Kekre
5) Afshan Khan
6) Janaki

And now, the Questions I wish to pose to the bloggers I have nominated:

1) What do you think about blog awards? Genuine or an extension of friendship?

2) Favorite book/movie/song and why?

3) 10 random facts about yourself.

4) What was your first impression about me? Is it any different now?

5) Your inspiration to continue blogging, despite a hectic work life?

Looking forward to your posts :-)

Wednesday, June 11, 2014

To Whom Ails The Separation Anxiety?

Bit by bit, my notions and my perspective about motherhood and its various phases are changing. Before the little on walked into my life, I had my own theories about everything. All of this accumulated from experience as a maasi to my now 8-year old nephew and all the books and articles I have read over a period of time. But for nothing do they say “Child is the father of man”.